Love Is Not a Ledger
"A relationship is not a 50/50 proposition. It is a 100/100 proposition. You don't bring half of yourself; you bring all of yourself." — Esther Perel Every relationship has a ledger. Most couples do not call it that. They do not sit down at the kitchen table, open a spreadsheet, and calculate who owes whom affection, appreciation, apology, patience, or effort. But the ledger is often there. I did the dishes last night. I apologized first the last time. I always initiate the h
Dr. Don Schweitzer, PhD, LMSW
Jun 107 min read
From Needs to Values: A Better Framework for Relationships
"You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." — Marcus Aurelius There’s a common idea in modern relationships that sounds reasonable on the surface: they're supposed to meet my needs. It shows up in small ways: "They should know what I need.” "You're not meeting my needs.” “I need them to feel…" They all carry an underlying assumption that a good partner is someone who consistently delivers the right emotional experience. It mak
Dr. Don Schweitzer, PhD, LMSW
Mar 285 min read
When Relationship Skills Aren’t Enough: The Next Level of Couples Work
When communication skills aren't enough, stuck relationship patterns are often driven by the nervous system. Learn how deeper couples counseling breaks the cycle and restores connection.
Dr. Don Schweitzer, PhD, LMSW
Mar 275 min read
