Love Is Not a Ledger
"A relationship is not a 50/50 proposition. It is a 100/100 proposition. You don't bring half of yourself; you bring all of yourself." — Esther Perel Every relationship has a ledger. Most couples do not call it that. They do not sit down at the kitchen table, open a spreadsheet, and calculate who owes whom affection, appreciation, apology, patience, or effort. But the ledger is often there. I did the dishes last night. I apologized first the last time. I always initiate the h
Dr. Don Schweitzer, PhD, LMSW
Jun 107 min read
From Needs to Values: A Better Framework for Relationships
"You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." — Marcus Aurelius There’s a common idea in modern relationships that sounds reasonable on the surface: they're supposed to meet my needs. It shows up in small ways: "They should know what I need.” "You're not meeting my needs.” “I need them to feel…" They all carry an underlying assumption that a good partner is someone who consistently delivers the right emotional experience. It mak
Dr. Don Schweitzer, PhD, LMSW
Mar 285 min read
